I'm joking, of course. Not many men really want to be like the Boston Legal TV show character played by William Shatner. But, I think most men would like to have a solid friendship with another man, as Denny has with his friend Alan Shore (portrayed by actor James Spader).

Each man puts aside his individual politics and agendas and accepts the other for as a true friend. I think we men generally have a hard time with that. I, for one, have many friends, but nothing like what I would call a "best friend." It seems men are more hard-wired for my situation, than for Alan and Denny's.

I think we learn at an early age how to show different sides of ourselves to different friends based on what those friends need or want to see, or perhaps what we want them to see. We're afraid, I think, to let any one person (aside from our spouse, perhaps) see the whole person for fear of being judged. And we don't like to be judged, do we? My daughter, the Psychologist, says she's encountered similar feelings her freshman year at college. With some friends, she's finding she can't really be herself.

All in all, I think it's really something we have to overcome within our own minds. We have to get beyond caring what other people think of us to really be able to have and be true friends. Friends, like Denny Crane and Alan Shore, who look beyond differences and see the whole person are sorely needed. Not just in a man's life, but in everyone's life.

Denny Crane. Mad Cow.

P.S. Watch Boston Legal, Tuesday's at 10:00 PM ET on ABC!